A Word With Wedding Planner Extraordinaire Jove Meyer
When my husband and I started planning our wedding, my mother said, "Get a wedding planner." I thought, "Ok, maybe." She said, "Get a wedding planning. I promise, it will be the best money you ever spent." And I thought, "Well, I mean, I'm pretty organized and I can probably figure it all out." And she said, "Get the wedding planner."
If you're like me, you've gotta find ways to cut costs. Weddings are so expensive! Especially in NYC! You think, yeah, maybe you don't need a wedding planner!
News Flash: GET THE WEDDING PLANNER. Specifically, my wedding planner.
Jove Meyer is not only a lovely human being who I love spending time with, but he's also a kick-ass wedding planner. My mom was right. He was worth every single tiny little copper penny we paid him. (Don't worry, we didn't actually pay him in pennies.)
Leading up to the wedding, Jove was communicative, on top of every detail, and reassuring me, the stressed-out bride, that everything was taken care of. The day of the wedding, I said, "Jove take the wheel," and never looked back. The greatest gift I could have been given was the comfort of knowing every detail would be tended to--and I didn't have to do any of it. Hell, I didn't even think about it. The wedding day was the least stressful part of the entire process, as it should be.
Jove's rapport with guests was beyond professional, but also fun. He's a charming guy, but he's no nonsense, never missing a beat. For this month's Wedding Column, I caught up with my beloved planner man about his career in weddings.
How did you get into wedding planning and why?
My best friend got engaged in 2008 and asked me to help plan and design her wedding. I loved it so much, I did another friend's wedding that summer and Jove Meyer Events was born! I have worked in non-profit and corporate events, but somehow weddings kept pulling me in and 9 years later--and nearly 200 weddings under my belt--I still love it!
What’s the best perk of being a wedding planner?
Aside from working with couples to plan and design one of the most special days of their lives, it is nice to make my own schedule and work with such amazingly talented vendors. I cannot lie, the catering tastings are a fun perk! You sit with your couple and their family or friends and enjoy course after course of delicious food and drinks; it is always a good time. Most people think it would be the cake tasting, but to be honest I am not the biggest fan of cake (blasphemous I know, but it's true)!
What’s the most stressful aspect of the job?
A lot of people bring stress to the wedding planning process and others have it with their family dynamics; no two families or weddings are the same. Managing everyone's personalities, families, and expectations can be the most stressful part of the job, but it can also be the most rewarding.
I would say aiming to make everyone (vendors and clients) happy all the time is the most stressful part, especially when a parent and child disagree on things, or the couple disagrees on things. As the planner you're stuck in the middle, which can be immensely stressful and complex.
How selective are you about the couples you agree to work with?
I am lucky to have a strong style and laid-back method of planning, so that is a natural filter for couples. The first step in our process is to have a call to get to know what each couple is looking for. It is also a great chance for me to understand their vibe and style. If we do not match, then I am super honest about it and happy to recommend other planners. I want to work with couples who are excited to collaborate with me on their big day, not just those who are looking for someone to do the job. Wedding planning and design is a two-way road and I feel lucky to be selective in the couples I collaborate with!
What’s the most outrageous thing that’s happened on your watch as a wedding planner?
I am so lucky to work with such amazing clients and do not really have many crazy stories. Though as hard as I work to plan my events thoroughly, including every possible detail and outcome, sometimes life happens. People can be unpredictable, and people plus alcohol can cause extreme unpredictability!
One wedding we did, a guest stole a full unopened bottle of liquor from the bar, hid in the bathroom stall, and drank it all. The manager told me what happened and gave me two options: 1. call the police and arrest him or 2. I could go in and talk to him and take care of it. Being that the venue was all glass, having cop cars with bright lights shining all over during the first dance would ruin the wedding, so I went into the bathroom and sat on the toilet in the stall next to him and listened as he shared his heartbreak and reason for drinking a full bottle of liquor. To avoid the police being called, I needed him to admit to stealing it and pay for it. After a long chat between the stalls he came out and admitted to the manager what he did, but sadly his credit card was declined. Since the bottle needed to be paid for to avoid legal charges I had to find his brother, tell him the story and ask him to cover it. When he found out what happened, he punched his brother in the face and a full fight broke out between them, which I was in the middle of. Thankfully, this fight was settled, the bill was paid, and the bride never knew what happened until years later over cocktails!
After knowing all you do, and seeing all that you do, would you still want to get married? And if so, what does your dream wedding look like?
I LOVE weddings! I am a romantic at heart and think one huge beautiful party with everyone you love, celebrating the person you love, is a fantastic idea! That being said I have not planned my own wedding as I firmly believe it is a two-person job and develops as a relationship is built with delectable meals, delicious drinks, world travels, much laughter, and memories. I would never say "never" to a wedding, but I also know the work it takes to make such a production come to life. I could also see myself not having one, or having a small one, or having a full-on out-of-this world wedding. Who knows!